A super mother of 16 children has described how she homeschools all of them – admitting there is ‘no normal day in her household‘.
Charity founder Lyette Reback, 44, from North Palm Beach, Florida, has 10 daughters and six sons between the ages of two and 21 with her husband David Reback, 49, who is a broker with his own realty company.
She gave birth to her first daughter Daly Kay, now 21, when she herself was just 21 and has since had 12 more biological children, including latest addition Vaughn, two, as well as adopting four others.
Her other children are daughters Ryli, 20, Bliss, 19, Kemper, 17, Glory, 15, Trinity, 13, Liberty, 11, Sojourner, eight, Victory, six and Verity, four, and sons Courson, 12, Judson, 10, Shepherd, 10, Ransom, eight and Stone, five.
It means Lyette – who grew up as an only child – has spent ten years of her life pregnant, gaining and shedding a total of 600lbs in baby weight and going through labor – without a single C-section – a dozen times.
The mother of 16 regularly ferries her children around in a minibus – taking them to 88 different sports practices a week.
Despite having her hands full, the super mother – who has written a book about parenting – still finds time to work out and go for dinner with friends thanks to a strict chores schedule.
Lyette admitted that when she was younger she would have thought to have 16 children was ‘crazy’ – but believes it’s the ‘best job in the world’.
‘If I had known then that by the time I was 40 I would have 16 kids I would have thought it was crazy,’ she said.
‘If the number of children we have comes up in conversation or people see us out and they don’t know our family, they are like, “holy mackerel”.
‘At first, when there were four or five little girls it was, “Oh my gosh, you are crazy, how are you doing that?”
‘People would joke or say things like, “Don’t you have a TV in your bedroom?”.
‘Obviously, these remarks were either out of incredulity or they proposed my ignorance, but I am not stupid.
‘Now some of them are a bit older and they are doing well in life it seems it’s less of a freak show and they are saying, “Oh, maybe you’re not a weirdo.”‘
But the couple seems more than happy to defy convention, with Lyette revealing on her blog that they got engaged after just ten days when they were just 19 years old. Two years later, she fell pregnant with their first child.
Lyette explains how she and her husband David, who took over his parents’ luxury realty company, see raising children as an ‘opportunity’.
‘David and I were blessed to be able to have children and I we really, truly believe that raising children is an incredible opportunity to do something amazing in the world,’ she said.
‘I fully understand we have chosen to do life differently than most, but it works for us. We wouldn’t have it any other way.
‘I wake up each morning and think, “I can’t believe I get to do this”. Raising children is the best job in the world.
‘I don’t know if we will have anymore. We never put a number on it – we just take it one day at a time.’
Lyette starts each day at 5.30am by saying a prayer and writing a to-do list before homeschooling the children, who learn maths, science, languages, history, and art.
The deeply-religious family also ensures that they all devote ample time to Bible study sessions.
On top of their schoolwork, those kids who are old enough attend at least one sports club a week; in total, they attend 88 different practices in just seven days.
They also abide by a chores schedule which sees Trinity, 13, make three meals a day for the family, with Liberty, 11, as her sous chef.
The family gets through $650 of groceries from a wholesaler a week, including 12 gallons of milk, up to 100 eggs, 40lbs of chicken, and 40-50lbs of potatoes or rice.
While they are busy in the kitchen, Courson, 12, is helped by his brothers to do the laundry – washing, drying, folding and sorting 42 loads a week.
The other tasks, like scrubbing the bathrooms and vacuuming after meals, are divided between the remaining Reback children, who get their jobs done between classes.
In addition, the youngsters attend community events, forums, art performances and volunteer with their mom’s charity supporting America’s Gold Star families.
Lyette and David, who don’t have any household help but do have two tortoises and a dog, ferry them to and fro activities in their 17-seater Dodge Sprinter.
Despite their hectic schedules, the family manages to eat most meals together and squeeze in a weekly movie night, and Lyette says she tucks each child into bed at night.
She said: ‘It is challenging. There is no normal day in the Reback household.
‘I’m constantly running at 100mph and sometimes it’s overwhelming. It’s kind of bananas but it is somewhat organized chaos.
‘It can get so busy that I can barely even remember my name at times but it is always worth it.
‘With chores, sometimes I’m just like, “Oh my gosh, I would pay someone to do this right now,” because it’s so hard to get them to do it the right way.
‘But at the end of the day, is the goal to have a tidy house or responsible children? I just really want them to have a solid work ethic.
‘I will throw a load of laundry in when I wake up though. It isn’t like Courson is just slaving over it all day but that is his job and he does take it seriously.
‘They’re human beings, not robots, and it isn’t always perfect or pretty but that fact is the same whether you have two kids or 20.’
As well as being a mom, Lyette writes a blog called ‘The Rebacks’ and manages Believe With Me, a charity supporting military families who lost a loved one in service.
At Christmas, the organization gave gifts to more than 600 children of fallen soldiers with the help of an army of volunteers – including David and the children.
She said: ‘Some days, the phone calls I get from the widows, or from the parents who have lost a child in the military- they break my heart.
‘But my husband and my children are so encouraging when they see me struggling to meet the needs of so many families.’
Lyette has also written a book about parenthood called ‘Please God, Don’t Let Me Screw This Up’.